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Resources for the Addict and the Spouse

Get yourself the help you need, and don’t wait until the problem gets worse. Every day, men all over the country are arrested for the solicitation of prostitutes. Amazingly enough, most of these men hold down great jobs and are very nice people. Their wives are shocked when they find out.

Get educated about the problem. Read books such as:

Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes

Men’s Secret Wars by Pat Means

Every Man’s Battle by Steve Arterburn

Get help online, at web sites such as

www.iprodigals.com

Get individual therapy to deal with your own issues, whether it is you or your spouse. Spouses need to develop new ways of relating to their spouses, get educated, and learn how to create and keep firm boundaries. Usually sex addicts will not change until they are at risk to lose something or someone they value highly, such as their spouses, children, or careers.

Attend 12-step meetings that you can locate from the www.iprodigals.com web site.

Remember that by nature addictions will only get worse unless the addict receives help. It has to be intense and the top priority in his life in order to work.